Comments on: One of the tough days http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/ Thu, 04 Dec 2008 06:30:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: This Mommy Gig » Blog Archive » Weepy Mom Post #2 http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-237 This Mommy Gig » Blog Archive » Weepy Mom Post #2 Wed, 28 May 2008 13:10:23 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-237 [...] you're new here, you may want to subscribe so you don't miss any of the action! Have you met all of the moms? Head over and find out about the [...] [...] you’re new here, you may want to subscribe so you don’t miss any of the action! Have you met all of the moms? Head over and find out about the [...]

]]> By: diane http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-150 diane Wed, 21 May 2008 00:23:23 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-150 Kate, I was a total stay-at-home when my kids were young (not even a part-time job) and I STILL experienced guilt...about the days when I was too tired to play in the park or too impatient to read a favorite story yet again. We do what we can, and our children love us for it. It's the quality of care, the depth of feeling that gives our kids their sense of security. They will remember your family evening of impromptu dancing rather than occasional moments of stress. You're a fabulous, fun Mom! Give yourself the credit you deserve. diane dianes last blog post..<a href="http://dmcordell.blogspot.com/2008/05/lilacs.html" rel="nofollow">Lilacs</a> Kate,
I was a total stay-at-home when my kids were young (not even a part-time job) and I STILL experienced guilt…about the days when I was too tired to play in the park or too impatient to read a favorite story yet again.

We do what we can, and our children love us for it. It’s the quality of care, the depth of feeling that gives our kids their sense of security. They will remember your family evening of impromptu dancing rather than occasional moments of stress.

You’re a fabulous, fun Mom! Give yourself the credit you deserve.

diane

dianes last blog post..Lilacs

]]> By: Lorin Rivers http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-146 Lorin Rivers Tue, 20 May 2008 21:10:56 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-146 Wouldn't it be awesome if employers universally gave us the option to take "family health" time like this. Sorry, gonna be late to work, I have to play dress-up... Wouldn’t it be awesome if employers universally gave us the option to take “family health” time like this. Sorry, gonna be late to work, I have to play dress-up…

]]> By: Cody http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-137 Cody Tue, 20 May 2008 15:58:32 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-137 YatPundit - I forsee future debates and beers!! Thanks. Kate you have unboubtedly the second best blog I have read today... Sorry I am a little bit of an ego-maniac!!! lol Codys last blog post..<a href="http://www.codytalks.com/2008/05/i-am-right-and-you-are-wrong-because.html" rel="nofollow">I am right and you are Wrong because you are Gay.</a> YatPundit - I forsee future debates and beers!!

Thanks.

Kate you have unboubtedly the second best blog I have read today…

Sorry I am a little bit of an ego-maniac!!! lol

Codys last blog post..I am right and you are Wrong because you are Gay.

]]> By: YatPundit http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-136 YatPundit Tue, 20 May 2008 15:46:36 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-136 "Men are going to have to meet in the middle and assume some of the old school traditional “Mommy” duties." this dad agrees totally. but then, I love to cook, so it's not like that job-sharing is a huge issue. :-) I travel so much, though, that wife is like a single mom for the weeks i'm away, and then I assume the bulk of the carpool/shopping/etc when home. it's different, but it works. YatPundits last blog post..<a href="http://www.yatpundit.com/2008/05/walking-the-labyrinth.html" rel="nofollow">Walking the Labyrinth</a> “Men are going to have to meet in the middle and assume some of the old school traditional “Mommy” duties.”

this dad agrees totally. but then, I love to cook, so it’s not like that job-sharing is a huge issue. :-) I travel so much, though, that wife is like a single mom for the weeks i’m away, and then I assume the bulk of the carpool/shopping/etc when home. it’s different, but it works.

YatPundits last blog post..Walking the Labyrinth

]]> By: Cody http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-135 Cody Tue, 20 May 2008 14:45:59 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-135 Also this just happened in my Hometown, Kate it's not this bad yet is ??? http://www.hutchnews.com/Todaystop/wifefingertip Joke! Codys last blog post..<a href="http://www.codytalks.com/2008/05/i-am-right-and-you-are-wrong-because.html" rel="nofollow">I am right and you are Wrong because you are Gay.</a> Also this just happened in my Hometown, Kate it’s not this bad yet is ???

http://www.hutchnews.com/Todaystop/wifefingertip

Joke!

Codys last blog post..I am right and you are Wrong because you are Gay.

]]> By: Kate http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-134 Kate Tue, 20 May 2008 14:45:04 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-134 All - Thank you SO much for the support, it truly makes me feel better to know that other people understand what I'm going through......and that's why I decided to write here, community helps in so many situations. Thanks again for helping me put things in perspective :-) All -
Thank you SO much for the support, it truly makes me feel better to know that other people understand what I’m going through……and that’s why I decided to write here, community helps in so many situations. Thanks again for helping me put things in perspective :-)

]]> By: Cody http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-133 Cody Tue, 20 May 2008 14:44:33 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-133 Ok I have a little point to Christine Perketts comment.... "Men have been doing it for years, FYI. Let’s not forget that " Men have been doing it for years and it has worked out because women weren't doing it. Whoa!!!!!! Slow down mommy's quit lighting up the keyboards and attacking me!!! I am not saying Mom's should not pursue careers!! I think anyone regardless of anything has the right to pursue whatever they want. My point is this. Mom's pursuing careers is a different dynamic than just saying Men have been doing it for years. It can still work, that is how my house is and I think it's a success. You are just comparing Apples and Oranges. Men are going to have to meet in the middle and assume some of the old school traditional "Mommy" duties. Ok I am rambling.. Point is: You cannot say, it's ok to do this because Men have been doing this for years. It's ok to do this because every Adult in this country has the same rights but the Family dynamic must change if both parents are going to pursue careers. Jeez!!! I feel like I just spilled milk all over all of your kitchen floors. I promise I am on your side I just had reservations with Christine's comment. Codys last blog post..<a href="http://www.codytalks.com/2008/05/i-am-right-and-you-are-wrong-because.html" rel="nofollow">I am right and you are Wrong because you are Gay.</a> Ok I have a little point to Christine Perketts comment….
“Men have been doing it for years, FYI. Let’s not forget that ”

Men have been doing it for years and it has worked out because women weren’t doing it.
Whoa!!!!!! Slow down mommy’s quit lighting up the keyboards and attacking me!!!
I am not saying Mom’s should not pursue careers!! I think anyone regardless of anything has the right to pursue whatever they want. My point is this. Mom’s pursuing careers is a different dynamic than just saying Men have been doing it for years. It can still work, that is how my house is and I think it’s a success. You are just comparing Apples and Oranges. Men are going to have to meet in the middle and assume some of the old school traditional “Mommy” duties.

Ok I am rambling.. Point is:
You cannot say, it’s ok to do this because Men have been doing this for years. It’s ok to do this because every Adult in this country has the same rights but the Family dynamic must change if both parents are going to pursue careers.

Jeez!!! I feel like I just spilled milk all over all of your kitchen floors. I promise I am on your side I just had reservations with Christine’s comment.

Codys last blog post..I am right and you are Wrong because you are Gay.

]]> By: Rachael Cahours Acklin http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-132 Rachael Cahours Acklin Tue, 20 May 2008 14:30:00 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-132 There will be more balance - but anything worth having is hard work getting there. I think you're doing fantastic, and it's obvious how much it all matters to you because you're posting about it. Your kids have a great mom who wants the best for them and for the family as a whole; they're incredibly blessed. *hug* Just keep on keeping on! There will be more balance - but anything worth having is hard work getting there. I think you’re doing fantastic, and it’s obvious how much it all matters to you because you’re posting about it. Your kids have a great mom who wants the best for them and for the family as a whole; they’re incredibly blessed.

*hug* Just keep on keeping on!

]]> By: Christine Perkett http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/20/one-of-the-tough-days/#comment-131 Christine Perkett Tue, 20 May 2008 14:14:07 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=71#comment-131 Kate, hang in there. Just as you said, one tantrum and you could feel much better. It's the whole reason we started this blog, to know that we are not alone in our mixed feelings of wanting it all - I want a career and I want to be active in my children's lives. Having just one or the other would make me feel incomplete - at the same time I don't want to do, as a male friend of mine said last night, "a half-assed job at both." And everyday I struggle with that notion. We do the best we can. And you know what - it's ALL OKAY. Trust me, it will be okay. Men have been doing it for years, FYI. Let's not forget that - and let's not shoulder all the burden ourselves for making the "either/or" choice. We can do both, and to them both well, too. Hang in there! Christine Perketts last blog post..<a href="http://perkettprsuasion.com/2008/05/16/persuasive-picks-for-the-week-of-051208/" rel="nofollow">Persuasive Picks for the week of 05/12/08</a> Kate, hang in there. Just as you said, one tantrum and you could feel much better. It’s the whole reason we started this blog, to know that we are not alone in our mixed feelings of wanting it all - I want a career and I want to be active in my children’s lives. Having just one or the other would make me feel incomplete - at the same time I don’t want to do, as a male friend of mine said last night, “a half-assed job at both.” And everyday I struggle with that notion. We do the best we can. And you know what - it’s ALL OKAY. Trust me, it will be okay.

Men have been doing it for years, FYI. Let’s not forget that - and let’s not shoulder all the burden ourselves for making the “either/or” choice. We can do both, and to them both well, too.

Hang in there!

Christine Perketts last blog post..Persuasive Picks for the week of 05/12/08

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