(Cross-posted at Journeys)
Since we had one unused Snow Day left, our school district decided to use it on Friday, May 23, creating a most welcome 4-day weekend for the Memorial Day holiday.
Thursday seemed like the perfect evening for a Girls’ Night Out.
Whenever work stress starts to mount - during standardized testing weeks or as the school year draws to a close - someone will suggest one of these impromptu get-togethers. Sometimes it involves dinner and a movie, once we enjoyed an evening of comedy (featuring female comedians) at a local club. Last night, five of us simply met for an extended dinner.
Although we teach in the same district, we rarely have the chance to interact during the work week. Yes, we did talk about students, testing, and schedules. But we’re all women, all married, all moms. Health issues came up: one of us is a breast cancer survivor, another is about to return to work after recent surgery. Our mothering topics ranged from silly (how to cope with a family of living room sock-shedders) to serious (dealing with an adult child’s autism). We quietly listened to a friend describe her unemployed husband’s new involvement with poker. He had just returned from a jaunt to Atlantic City with a friend, and she wasn’t sure when she’d decide to speak to him again. She wasn’t looking for advice or even sympathy, only needed to talk about the situation with women who wouldn’t criticize or judge her. Speaking about her frustration and anger seemed to comfort her; she knows we’ll be there for her if she requires more support.
It wasn’t a “wild” evening, though we’ve had some of those. It was satisfying on a human level. For all of my involvement with technology and Twitter, I still crave face to face interaction. It was fun to laugh and chatter in real time.
No matter your job description or workload, make sure to set aside some time to spend with The Girls. Whether it’s coffee at Starbucks or a weekend in Vegas, you need a chance to connect with other working women.
Take a minute to think of some Girls’ Night Out activities that would appeal to you. Then get online or get on the phone and make it happen.
Diane - thanks for this perfect post about making sure we have “real-life” friends too. I have such a hard time scheduling time for me-time, but when I do it is SO worth it. I actually just confirmed plans this morning for a Girls’ Night Out with a close friend - we’re going to have dinner & then go see the Sex and the City movie on the opening night - a perfect activity for just ladies
You’re so right that sometimes we need to just talk - my best friend and I have been struggling with arranging times to do so face-to-face, but I think we’re planting our shared garden together this weekend and will get the chance, yay!
You are so right! I planned a GNO for the movie opening of Sex & the City! It is essential for a balanced parent to have adult time!
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Kate and Lauren,
Sounds like our group needs to reconvene for a Girls’ Night at the Movies. Can you believe that I’ve never seen that T.V. show? Saving up things to view in my old age!
Seriously, though, you young women need to carve out your “Self” time. It’s not selfish - it’s smart. The stronger you are as an individual, the more you’ll have to share with your partner/spouse and children.
diane
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