Comments on: Temper, Temper! On Taming the Savage Beast http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/27/temper-temper-on-taming-the-savage-beast/ Tue, 06 Jan 2009 08:30:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Marie http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/27/temper-temper-on-taming-the-savage-beast/#comment-232 Marie Wed, 28 May 2008 00:43:45 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=119#comment-232 I've always found it good with my kids to keep to a routine. hard if you are not a routine person, but then they know what to expect ... always give them advance warning (10 more minutes then time to tidy up and get ready for bathtime etc). Praise the child when behaviour is good; let them know when it it unacceptable. Have a place (can be a chair in a hallway - not their bedroom) or separate room if you have it, where they go and sit (on the 'naughty chair') if their behaviour is unacceptable. My two-year old responds to this. If having a tantrum, I tell her 'go and sit on the naughty chair'. Only leave them there for a couple of mins at this age and go and ask (get down to their level) 'are you ready to come off the naughty chair now?' Repeat the process if behaviour repeats. It is surprising, young children do respond to this 'time out' tactic. At first they may come off the chair (it can be a cushion or a mat), then firmly put them back in the 'space'. Maries last blog post..<a href="http://learningcurve.globalteacher.org.au/2008/05/27/create-a-comiccartoon-book/" rel="nofollow">Create a comic/cartoon book</a> I’ve always found it good with my kids to keep to a routine. hard if you are not a routine person, but then they know what to expect … always give them advance warning (10 more minutes then time to tidy up and get ready for bathtime etc). Praise the child when behaviour is good; let them know when it it unacceptable. Have a place (can be a chair in a hallway - not their bedroom) or separate room if you have it, where they go and sit (on the ‘naughty chair’) if their behaviour is unacceptable. My two-year old responds to this. If having a tantrum, I tell her ‘go and sit on the naughty chair’. Only leave them there for a couple of mins at this age and go and ask (get down to their level) ‘are you ready to come off the naughty chair now?’ Repeat the process if behaviour repeats. It is surprising, young children do respond to this ‘time out’ tactic. At first they may come off the chair (it can be a cushion or a mat), then firmly put them back in the ’space’.

Maries last blog post..Create a comic/cartoon book

]]> By: Lisa Parisi http://thismommygig.org/2008/05/27/temper-temper-on-taming-the-savage-beast/#comment-231 Lisa Parisi Wed, 28 May 2008 00:35:37 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=119#comment-231 Love the tantrum suggestions. When my daughter was a toddler, I found giving her language to be the best solution. Once I said it once or twice ("I know you don't want to stop playing to take a bath but it is time now.") she started saying it to me instead of screaming. And, somehow, just verbalizing her frustration made it go away. So now, how do I get my now 12 year old to verbalize her frustration with more than eye rolling and snappy answers? Any ideas? Love the tantrum suggestions. When my daughter was a toddler, I found giving her language to be the best solution. Once I said it once or twice (”I know you don’t want to stop playing to take a bath but it is time now.”) she started saying it to me instead of screaming. And, somehow, just verbalizing her frustration made it go away. So now, how do I get my now 12 year old to verbalize her frustration with more than eye rolling and snappy answers? Any ideas?

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