Comments on: “How Come?” http://thismommygig.org/2008/06/21/how-come/ Tue, 06 Jan 2009 10:19:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Michelle http://thismommygig.org/2008/06/21/how-come/#comment-773 Michelle Wed, 02 Jul 2008 15:03:41 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=245#comment-773 My son is in the midst of a serious "Why" phase. While I don't want to discourage learning, I must admit it is driving me crazy. Especially when I take the time to answer and then I get "What?". Or the questions I just don't know how to answer like "What time is it?" "4 o'clock" "Why?" Argh! I'm going to have to try that “I don’t know; that’s a good question, though.” I say "I don't know" a lot and hate that copout. Adding "that's a good question" softens it a bit, I think. Michelle My son is in the midst of a serious “Why” phase. While I don’t want to discourage learning, I must admit it is driving me crazy. Especially when I take the time to answer and then I get “What?”. Or the questions I just don’t know how to answer like “What time is it?” “4 o’clock” “Why?” Argh!

I’m going to have to try that “I don’t know; that’s a good question, though.” I say “I don’t know” a lot and hate that copout. Adding “that’s a good question” softens it a bit, I think.

Michelle

]]> By: Jon Becker http://thismommygig.org/2008/06/21/how-come/#comment-719 Jon Becker Thu, 26 Jun 2008 02:31:48 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=245#comment-719 No, I think that counts (-: I know lots of parents who argue with the kid before giving in and/or they won't admit to others that their child is in their bed. I'm impressed that your 3 year old can negotiate his way to your bed on his own! Jon Beckers last blog post..<a href="http://edinsanity.com/2008/06/25/fortune-cookie-fate/" rel="nofollow">Fortune Cookie Fate?</a> No, I think that counts (-: I know lots of parents who argue with the kid before giving in and/or they won’t admit to others that their child is in their bed. I’m impressed that your 3 year old can negotiate his way to your bed on his own!

Jon Beckers last blog post..Fortune Cookie Fate?

]]> By: Sherry http://thismommygig.org/2008/06/21/how-come/#comment-717 Sherry Thu, 26 Jun 2008 01:38:46 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=245#comment-717 Jon~Guess I'm not purposeful at sharing the bed if I don't even notice he's there until the morning? Doesn't count :)? Sherry Jon~Guess I’m not purposeful at sharing the bed if I don’t even notice he’s there until the morning? Doesn’t count :)?

Sherry

]]> By: Jon Becker http://thismommygig.org/2008/06/21/how-come/#comment-707 Jon Becker Wed, 25 Jun 2008 20:10:07 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=245#comment-707 Thanks, Sherry. Funny that you mention turning the water off while brushing teeth. I'm terrible about it and my wife is great about it. My son now reminds me by telling me, "Mommy turns off the water..." Al Gore would be proud of him. Re: attachment parenting...I don't particularly like "labeling" our parenting. But, I do like that we have a mutually-adopted orientation that we try to be committed to entirely. And, intentionality and consistency are the keys, IMHO. For example, purposeful bed sharing is different than begrudging bed sharing. And, not giving him a hard time when he asks to sleep with us is different than fighting him on any given occasion. So, bed sharing is a practice commonly associated with AP, but it's not really AP if it's not done purposefully and consistently. Thanks, Sherry. Funny that you mention turning the water off while brushing teeth. I’m terrible about it and my wife is great about it. My son now reminds me by telling me, “Mommy turns off the water…” Al Gore would be proud of him.
Re: attachment parenting…I don’t particularly like “labeling” our parenting. But, I do like that we have a mutually-adopted orientation that we try to be committed to entirely. And, intentionality and consistency are the keys, IMHO. For example, purposeful bed sharing is different than begrudging bed sharing. And, not giving him a hard time when he asks to sleep with us is different than fighting him on any given occasion. So, bed sharing is a practice commonly associated with AP, but it’s not really AP if it’s not done purposefully and consistently.

]]> By: Sherry http://thismommygig.org/2008/06/21/how-come/#comment-706 Sherry Wed, 25 Jun 2008 19:50:45 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=245#comment-706 Great post! Our little one turned three a little over a week ago as well. He's been "why"ing us for a couple of months now. I like to see where the conversation takes us. The other day we started a conversation with him asking why he had to turn off the water when he was brushing his teeth, and we ended up talking about global warming. As for the attachment parenting, I think a lot of us practice it without having given it that label. Hey, they're going to be too big to pick up easily soon, you should take all the snuggle time you can now! Great post! Our little one turned three a little over a week ago as well. He’s been “why”ing us for a couple of months now. I like to see where the conversation takes us. The other day we started a conversation with him asking why he had to turn off the water when he was brushing his teeth, and we ended up talking about global warming. As for the attachment parenting, I think a lot of us practice it without having given it that label. Hey, they’re going to be too big to pick up easily soon, you should take all the snuggle time you can now!

]]> By: Lisa http://thismommygig.org/2008/06/21/how-come/#comment-675 Lisa Sun, 22 Jun 2008 20:33:16 +0000 http://thismommygig.org/?p=245#comment-675 I'm still waiting for that stage with my sons, 2yrs and 2 months, but i learned a while back from friends a great response to the "why" or "how come" questions... Ask them what they think! Especially for those questions where you dont know exactly how complicated of an answer to give (bodily function questions, where do babies come from, etc). You'll be surprised at the answers they give. Often they know it already, or have some really interesting ideas of their own! I’m still waiting for that stage with my sons, 2yrs and 2 months, but i learned a while back from friends a great response to the “why” or “how come” questions… Ask them what they think! Especially for those questions where you dont know exactly how complicated of an answer to give (bodily function questions, where do babies come from, etc). You’ll be surprised at the answers they give. Often they know it already, or have some really interesting ideas of their own!

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